A family isn’t just a bunch of people living together under one roof; it’s a lot more than that. A family is a collective set of dreams, aspirations that need to be communicated, addressed and realized. Over the past few months, I’ve been very busy with a personal project that very few know about. I’ve been busy with the construction of my parents’ house, or rather, our home.
When the project first started, we thought that it would just be a matter of communicating our requirements to an architect, approving one of his design suggestions, then getting work started on it. Boy, were we wrong!
Over the duration of this project, I’ve learned a number of things, from how to deal with your architect and contractor, to learning how you can make your parents’, your family’s dreams and aspirations come true with their new home. There is a very visible difference between a house and a home. We were initially designing a house, but now, we’re designing a home.
One of the most critical things I’ve learned is that you need to keep your home’s design in control, otherwise, your architect might just lose track of your requirements and start designing a house based on his specs. To do that, you need to be very clear about what your home will be like, what you want your home to be like. You need to understand your family’s dreams and address them through the design of your new home.
Dreams are what make us a family; they unite us and give us hope in hard times. They give us something to look forward to, a goal per se; something to strive for. However, this is what we lose track of most of the time. We get so engulfed in other things that we forget all about our dreams and let things get out of hand. Eventually, we lose track of our lives.
During the earlier stages, I pulled away from this project for some reason, and I learned the importance of being a more active part of the design and early construction phases of such a project. By the time I had realized my mistake, and rejoined the project, the original, approved design had been unrecognizably disfigured. It took a while, a lot of hard work, but things improved. This is when I learned the importance of a family’s dreams and how everything is intertwined with them.
There is so much more to life than the material things around us, however we spend most of our time in the acquisition of those things, those inanimate objects. Sure, having a new car, or the latest cell phone would be great, but having a happy and content life with your family would be even better, no?
As I said earlier, a family is a collection of mixed dreams, feelings, emotions, and experiences. We tend to take these smaller things for granted, and that eventually leads to disharmony not only in our lives, but in everything we do. However, if we just hold onto these things, life becomes that much more beautiful and worth living. We actually start living, instead of merely existing.