Ever have one of those when you just want to leave everything and just fade away? When you just want to get up and disappear? I know I’ve had my share of such moments.
I’m a very reclusive person by nature; I’d rather spend my time alone at a nice quiet beach, listening to the water, as opposed to hanging out at a mall out at some overly crowded restaurant. Call me a nutcase but that’s just how I am. Now here’s a headscratcher: Ever wonder why we feel like this and why we become reclusive?
My two cents: My surroundings forced me into a cocoon. Be it relationship matters or family problems, financial issues or career misdirections; these things have much more adverse effects on a person than we believe. The stress, the anxiety slowly turns into a disorder, an axe looming precariously over your neck all the time till eventually, it falls.
Every person has a certain finite capacity to withstand and deal with stress. Increase the pressure too much and you eventually snap. What happens then is that your life slowly becomes an unnecessary and unbearable headache for you. That starts an inevitable and irreversible domino effect, encapsulating both you and those around you. You begin losing interest in everything. Everything you liked doing becomes monotonous, everything you loved begins to irritate you, and you eventually start hating your existence. Sure, “hate” is a pretty strong word, but that is what happens. Depression hits you so hard that it sends you reeling.
Being human means that we have certain limits. Our ability to withstand pain, be it physical, emotional or psychological is very finite. If we try to push those limits, one of two things happen: We either succeed in expanding them, or we fail miserably and fall really hard. This is what we must avoid, under all circumstances because the results are very drastic.
Imagine losing all interest in life itself; you won’t like listening to the sound of falling water, or birds chirping merrily in your garden, or even watching a nice movie, or playing your favorite video game. You start avoiding everything, and don’t even find solace with your family, friends and loved ones. I know because it has happened to me, and trust me, living becomes the hardest part of your life.
If you haven’t jumped over that edge, then I suggest that you heed my advice, and take a few steps back. If something’s bothering you, stop right there and resolve that problem. If you’re unhappy with your life, don’t try too hard to change it. Normally, people would say that you should struggle like hell to make things work and improve your life, and that is a very good piece of advice, but keep in mind that you are human and that you do have limits. Your body has some very finite limits and you need to be very, very careful that you don’t cross them.